Friendship and Respect

I have been thinking a lot lately about friendship, respect and other things related to this complicated matter. When can we call someone friend? Is there anything to distinguish old and new friends? What is it? Is there any bar up to where a friend can talk to you without interfering in your life?

Ages ago I found out there is no wonderland when it comes to friendship. Some of my past good friends are suddenly showing their true colours and therefore forcing me to remove them from my palette. Why can't someone be friends in an accepting and understanding manner? Why not friendship is always a chain or to keep two individuals going on like one?

Ok, fair enough, this might sound pessimistic to my new friends but in reality what happened is that I just found out few very good friends of mine (or so as I thought) to be in fact opportunistic, self-centered, parasitic type of friends. In a halt I started to think about it, in a broader way and my thoughts took me abak. I could just realise that this doesn't happen only with me. I could see people very near me having the same sort of problem, even though they can't notice it yet. It is quite complicated when "true good friends" or "almost siblings" start behaving as enemies, full of dark feelings belonging just to enemies like anger, jealousy, lack of character, among others. And this can be triggered by so many factors, including changing in life style, money, position, prestige, etc. Why the "odd friends" seem to try to stab us behind our back or even worse to poke us in the eye?

Why do people behave in this way? Does this behaviour belong to human nature? Why can't we have or choose uncomplicated true friends?

I am trying to have my own radar now bringing to my new frienship circle people that I don't think will give me problems in the future. But I also thought my pseudo-old-good-friends were like that....

I know it is quite complicated but the border between friendship and animosity is as narrow as the border between love and hate, and interestingly all is triggered by the same factors, less sex! I know I am sounding like Arthur Schopenhauer but I have had few major disappointments recently, and I can see that there are more to come. At least I could see the disaster approaching me and then vanishing these people from my circle of friends was the right thing to do for my own sake. For others it can be quite difficult to do so, but I guess they will suffer more because they keep nourishing more hope towards something that is already destroyed...This ain't my business anyway.

Now that I took these feelings out of my head, I am ready to progress, in peace and loving life as I've always done.

With my new friends!

Bring it on....